Is it correct to get tantrum, when your child tantrums??? How to handle child’s Tantrum. Let us see in this article.
A friend recently called in tears to tell me that her beloved four-year-old daughter, born after years of fertility treatments, was experiencing awful tantrums. After a fun afternoon shopping at the mall, the toddler had refused to get in the car, even dangerously trying to escape into the parking structure. The mom instinctually grabbed her before the girl went too far, but that brought on another tantrum, replete with screaming and kicking.
The final straw: As mother tried to reason with daughter, the little girl called her “stupid.” The mom yelled at her, then roughly shoved the child into the car seat. “I had a parent tantrum”, she told me. And she felt horrible about it.
Sometimes, your child just flips the switch. She misbehaves and suddenly, you find yourself losing control, yelling and striking out, right alongside your child. Tantrums are difficult for most parents, and can trigger unexpected, intense feelings. The irony is that when toddlers tantrum, what they need most is for the parent to be calm and to guide them back to a calm state. Babies and toddlers are biologically wired to find calmness with the help of a loving adult. Contrary to popular belief, helping a tantruming child will not reinforce the tantrum, but over time, strengthen the child’s ability to soothe herself.
In fact, tantrums present valuable opportunities to support our children’s future mental health. As parents, we set the stage for our children to learn healthy ways to manage their distress.
We begin by looking at our own responses to these questions:
Are you instantaneously triggered by something your child says or does on a regular basis?
Do you often feel out of control in response to something your child does?
Are your reactions equal to or more intense than your child’s outbursts?